Impersonal, personalization through social networks...

I posted this on my Facebook account today- and I thought it might be relevant to many folks and the social avenues in their lives... so here it is:
     ok, I took what, 14 days off of Facebook... and what did I learn and realize?? Something deeply personal for me... that this is a very lonely place... yes, facebook is... it is part of the cyber world- the impersonal, lack of human emotion, affection and general personal interaction one gets from real friendships. Yes, I love all of you, my friends and family on here, don't get me wrong. There is an issue though which is prevalent in society's social world today though. A huge disconnect exists in what is supposed to be human interaction. We, the people, living in this busy world, knowing far too many people to truly enjoy a deep and meaningful relationship with ALL of them, replace the personal interaction, with good intentioned cyber love. Whether it be texting, or Facebook, or Myspace... or Twitter, or instant computer messaging... it is NOT the same thing as social interaction... it is not the same as a conversation with voice inflection and questions showing genuine interest in another human beings welfare. It does not include a hug if you are affectionate, or the emotion only eyes can display. Or the deepest healing element of mankind, which is also the most infectious of all..... DO YOU KNOW WHAT THAT IS?? It is something we all need, and often lack... that is LAUGHTER folks... you ever hear a good laugh coming out of someone and begin to giggle too? Do you get that out of  "LOL" ??? Sure you can read funny stuff, see funny videos, and get a good laugh- but that is not the same as laughter from true human interaction.
What I realized for me personally, is that although it is great to be on here and read peoples posts, and keep up with people in a way, I felt  very lonely in the end of the day despite "reading Facebook". I realized in my two weeks off here, although I missed this social network, it does not replace what I get from you in person- even if in person, is on the phone. So, I will continue to stay on Facebook, and interact here... but that is not enough. Although I am a loner in many ways, and love my quiet times- I feel when I do want to socialize, I prefer from now on to talk to you, versus posting to you..... Life is short, and I want quality, not quantity in everything I do... and I want the same for you!! I want my interactions to BE personal, not guarded, and therefore from this point out, will pick and choose and re-evaluate what I get from Facebook and who is on i.m. friends list. The ones that are? Are far more then "cyber-buddies".... you are my friends, you mean alot to me, I value you and want to talk to you IN PERSON!  I hope you understand what I mean here, and I hope it makes you think about the quality of friendships in your own life too- to realize that posting to someone on Facebook is truly not MAINTAINING your friendships... it is just a component contributing to them..... and it is not enough to think that it is making someone feel like they are appreciated... you want them to know you care? Have some good olden day inspiration and have them over for dinner, or call them, or go visit them...... yes, thats what I figured out during my two weeks off of facebook my friends... thats all, a simple little realization that truly struck a chord in me... thanks for listening~

Think a Thought to Ponder- WORDS~~~~

Words of the World

In our worldly ways

We speak so many, do you know what you say?

Do they harm, hurt, and do us wrong today?

Do they capture captivate & gravitate the meaning of what you want to convey?

Do they cultivate, capitulate and debate what you mean?

Can you capture them with tones and grace, and find a better way?

With the breath upon your lips, what escapes you can change

The words of the world in many ways~

by Me

~NUTTsHeLl~

I find that my time is precious- no more then yours, but it is. As I evaluate my life, and move through the years, I even find that it is sacred. All the things I never paid attention to before, move to the forefront of my mind. The things I took for granted, have all been "reality-checked" by life's events, both good and bad. So from this, I realized I have a voice, and I want to use it. Not just to be heard, it really is not that simple, but to make a difference. It is as if my words, could just bring one thought of change, to those who read them, then I have accomplished something good in my 40 short years.

I look at the events of the world right now- all the things making a huge impact- along with them, the supported knowledge of my continued adult college education, and I am so unsettled by what I see. This perpetuated generational selfishness and self righteous nation we live in is truly disturbing to me. To take the ways of our freedom, and to minimize them to some personal self-righteous statement many make about the USA is downright embarrassing. The lack of compassion and willingness to be kind and reach out to help other nations is disgusting- all the while, many bitching about our own country, and it's politics- but they are unwilling to invest one iota of effort to enact change personally. It can be from the simplest things as recycling, water conservation, human rights, to economic and fiscally responsible actions, to ethnic or global freedoms and kindness.

I have looked, and watched silently for many years, thinking I was too young, or naive, or uneducated to speak up- to try to point things out. To think of solutions for myself let alone others. My journey through political science, history, and women's studies, has opened my eyes to a whole new world of things that I want, and could change. So now, I have slowly over the last year, begun to speak out. For rights, for equality, for change, for conservation, for alternatives. I can have a voice, I have a right to bitch..why? because I do vote, I do write legislation, policy holders, groups, the Representatives, the house and I do make the effort to see what I think is right, come about. Does that mean that I simply think you should agree on the same things? NO!! but what it does mean, is that you also should work towards the changes you want and have a voice too instead of a simple gripe! What I want to do is open your eyes- wide open, to see the world around you, and how you, as one simple person alone, can make a difference everyday, in small baby steps! Welcome on board, to the wind for a change- all it takes is for the wind to carry your voice, and many can hear it, many may heed it... it can make a difference.. so do your part too!

~DISTURBING~

I was on facebook today- and another public domain, and saw this post on many peoples pages- I found it deeply disturbing... here is what it said:

"Does it make sense? does it? Homeless in the US go without eating. Elderly in the US go without needed medicines. Mentally ill in the US go without treatment. American troops go without proper equipment. American veterans go without benefits that were promised. Yet we donate billions to other countries before helping our own first. 1% will re-post and 99% won't. Have the guts to re-post this. I KNOW I'M IN THE 1%"

My response in a few seconds was this (and I wish I had gone into greater detail):

 I agree money needs to allowcated properly here in the USA... BUT.... we are one of the richest countries on the planet- and if you look at what has happened in JAPAN- they have lost everything- and I think helping out others, our neighbors, ...is never a bad thing... the saying what comes around goes around, should never be limited by BORDERS. Being internally fiscal would be a great thing- but being selfish is not- if all of the world opened their arms to embrace and help- the world would be a much better place. WE do have shelters, and aid here- and many people CHOOSE not to seek it- I am not saying there are those who simply slip through the cracks, because certainly the system is not fair- but there are alot of resources for those who TRY to seek it- mental illness and drug issues (including alcohol) play a large part in those who dont get help- but there are many people due to economic failure and personally failed finances too; and then have no choice but to end up homeless... still, despite all these terrible circumstances- to see the loss of everything- 10,000 people, jobs, homes, animals, cars, money, banks, water, food sources, boats- all of it in Japan??... you don't think we should reach out a helping hand to them or Haiti??? You can not compare our hardships to those of these countries completely devestated!! You could take the food we throw out everyday in the garbage can in our homes, or at the end of the day at a restraunt for that matter, in the USA alone, and feed a nation! We overspend, and are materialistic in the US. Much is wasted and never recycled. We burn up natural resources faster then they can replenish. There are certainly things we could do to help oourselves internally, in our nation and don't. It is not to say many are unfairly, and unjustly treated either- because I am certainly not claiming perfection here in our country. If you want to see it make MORE SENSE here in the USA??? get out and vote! you have a voice, a choice, and you can pressure your politicians and congress by getting involved. I follow the laws personally, and pettition the house, representives and legislators at LEAST once a week on something I feel strongly about- we need to complain where it counts to change this- and help others too.

Just Some Pondering .. my rules and guides~

1)    I look at age, color of skin, creed, religeon, race, sexual preference, or anything else as a boundry implied by mankind for the walls of perception for those only shallow enough to walk along it- essentially  the simpleton lets it define ANYTHING worth jack shit....




2)  envision what you want you life to be, and for the most part, it will be.... but if you nestle in the dreary shit- you will remain there!



3)  You better be at PEACE within yourself, or the world will pick your PEICES apart one by one and you will be left with NOTHING....... (know thyself, love thyself)

4)  if you have no standards, all you will excell at is failure.... you are the only one who make yourself happy, set your boundries of right or wrong, make your own decisions, pick your friends, determine your life..... so better get some dam standards!

5)  Everything has consequences...... you can't always determine the consequences until you get there... it is not your fault, sometimes knowledge comes with experinces...... what is your fault is if you wallow in the consequences and never pick a path to higher ground if you are not happy with those consequences...... if you want to drown in your own flood, so be it, but dont make it be my problem... I am climbing the path to higher grounds, thank you very much....



6)   Death Equates to loss: time dulls the pain of our loss, but it never silences the love.... God Bless!

7)   An anchor is a Thorn.... and a support gives you room to bloom...

8)  and of course there is my word invetion of 1983: Fuck-tard.... or Fuck-tarded...

9)  I forgot the best fact- and we all do both!!!: Masturbation is like Procrastination, in the End, your only fucking yourself!!!

10) I was born this way, and you? Whats your excuse?

11) If you dont like it that I am a Bitch, just think of it this way.. I'm not your bitch so don't worry about it and mind your own dam business!! lol...

12) NO, I am not some skinny bean pole- yead, you can call it chubby, fat, undertall, and be mean, or what have you... but it's ok, because I like me, and thank GOD some people like a little "MEAT" with their potatoes..... CURVY is the new fashion satement!!



13)  being "TRUE" encompasses the Art of Honesty... and no one should ever challenge that with boundries of confinement & expectations of their own selfish agenda



14)   as I told someone the other day- it is easy to meet millions of people these days- but it is hard to find the one in a million who shares our values, beliefs, and interests and truly makes us compatible...
and it takes alot more then love and sex to make a relationship work..

15)   I think the sock monster has a santa clause like quality- he makes it to all the households of the world at once, and when you open the dryer, you never know what you are gonna get!!

16) an opinion, is just that, an opinion, it is like assholes, we all have 1, & if an opinion is offensive 2 someone & they tell you that you R "opinionated" that is only because they are so insecure that they feel like "your opinion" is threatening 2 who they really are- which in turn equates to "not much" if they are not strong enough 2 know who they are! Its called insecure!

• • Cody Ann Kimball an opinion can make us grow and become a bigger and better person. both by giving them, and receiving them.... and someone who is opinionated, just has the balls to SAY what they think and feel and be honest, where the rest think it, feel it, but dont have the balls to express it... therefore even more so indicating an insecurity about themselves... so tak it or leave it- an opinion is what you will get on my wall.... not willing to hear it or accept it? please leave my wall... there is the exit... !!!

16)  you can't change others, you can only change you... to meet your goals, you must be able to wrap a full circle of passion around that which oppresses you, to encompass the other side of the world.....

 All written by Cody Ann Kimball

TO MY BIOLOGICAL FATHER- W. F. KOKEN


Current mood:AT PEACE WITH MY CHOICES........


Category: Life








I WAS REMEMBERING A STORY FROM WHEN I WAS SMALL-


THERE WAS THIS MAN, I LOOKED UP TO HIM 


HE NEVER EVEN SAW ME AT ALL-


I WAS HIS KICKING POST & THIS I STRONGLY RECALL


HE LOOKED AT ME WITH SUCH DISTASTE-


AND ALL I SOUGHT WAS FOR HIS WARM EMBRACE


FOR THIS HE HAS FAR SINCE FAILED ME-


  HE NEVER EVEN SAW ME AT ALL-


I BECKONED AND SUMMONED FOR HIM
I WAS LOST IN HIS LIFE-  FOR I WAS NO EVENT AT ALL


I WISHED AND I LONGED, I CRIED AND TRIED


BUT FOR ALL HE KNEW, HE DESPISED ME-


FOR ONCE AND FOR ALL


HE HAD NOT ONE KIND WORD-


ONLY MEAN TONGUE SPEAK-


HE BEAT MY BROTHER , THEN HE BEAT ME-


ALL I EVER WANTED WAS FOR HIM TO SEE THAT I WAS JUST A LITTLE GIRL,


WHO NEEDED MUCH LOVE AND PEACE-


IT TOOK MY BREATH AWAY, MY HEART, AND MY SELF ESTEEM-


IN HIS SELFISH CRUELNESS IT DID SEEM-


I  WAS DESTINED TO FIND A LIFE OF  GUILT AND PAIN


THAT MADE ME MAKE CHOICES, I CAN NEVER TAKE BACK AGAIN-


AND IN THIS DAY I HAVE FOUND-


 I HIT THE WORLD RUNNING,


BOTH FEET FIRMLY PLANTED ON THE GROUND-
I PUT IT FAR BEHIND ME WITH FORGIVENESS


& WITH OUT HIM, MY LIFE FLOURISHES


ALL I SEE NOW IS LOVE AND PEACE ABOUND


AND NOW.......  


                       HE NEVER SEE'S ME AT ALL.............







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The Era to Return~

My Poem today
Current mood: apathetic
I saw this photo from a famous photographer during the depression named Dorethea Lange. The photo was in a presentation put on by one of the women in my womens study class. It was so od, because the picture struck a chord in me, and instantly this poem flowed from my brain like diareaha.... lol... thats my only explanation- but below is the photo and my poem~~~



The milk of your momma
Dried like a wrath
Leaving your quest for quench
like a scantily clad bath
Dust in the bowl
Wind on your back
left you behind, a starving attack
You think to the future
So green it seems
with the wealth of forest trees
And fine crops you DO see
Then you realize, it is just a mirrage
of the Milk you wish for dried, dried like a wrath


I have no idea why this popped into my head- but it did- so I thought I would share.....

this is what my poem was about